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Do people still hang out without booze?

May 27, 2010 BeWiseMonkey No comments

Seems to me when ever i want to do anything anymore i always get the question why arnt you drinking? Are you driving?

No !! What the fuck, whats with all the booze, can i not just hang out and be social without all this money spent on drinking. Im not sure what it is just seems to thats all i get when i meet up with people. Drink Drink, and more Drinking. I’ve had enough of all this drinking and expectation to drink and get drunk. Some of my best sober nights would have been even better if not for all the drink pestering.

I enjoy a drink when i feel like a drink but the majority of the time im in just a good frame of mind to not need a drink. When ever people want to see each other in my area, there is always drink involved. Do people hang out without drink, whats normal? I haven’t seen any people for a while because im avoiding the drinking situations. If it involves just drinking then im out. People never seem to get together for healthy reasons, lets meet up and drink vegetable juice and water. Thats my kind of buzz , lets meet up or go out partying. The drink is just an expensive product that is sold by the clubs and pubs to make a profit. Ive been on nights out where almost the entire night was consumed waiting at the bar to get served, drinking then going back to the bar and waiting to get served again. So stupid and pointless, and the expense £3.50 per bottle spending £30+ booze , being sick , feeling sick, and spending the next day being sick. Paying £30 to be ill , what? paying to get sick. Actually spending allot of money to pay to be ill this is crazy just so crazy. There is no logic in this and the cost involved is stupid.

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I keep trying to fall in love,

May 3, 2010 BeWiseMonkey No comments

This is not an easy thing for me to do, i keep trying to fall in love but i just don’t feel it. If i find a girl i like it feels to staged and unnatural. Like im trying to enjoy myself of feel something. I don’t think love and relationships come naturally to me, or maybe i still haven’t found that person where things just click and all seems easy and lovely. Still trying , ive started to use the social sites more and looking to meet new people by using the net.

Possibly going to more clubs and society. This just all seems like so much work just to find someone to love, i cant believe something that is supposed to happen naturally needs so much time and planning.

Ive been to social events so much, the whole process almost is starting to seem mechanical, and still no love.

MMMM will find some love , it just takes time (years) in my case.

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my pof personality test , plenty of fish test results

April 17, 2010 BeWiseMonkey No comments

Self-Confidence

As someone with high self-confidence, you feel quite comfortable interacting with other people. Indeed, you find the company of others very stimulating and enjoy meeting new people. Your relaxed demeanor in groups makes people around you comfortable too. Perhaps because you feel comfortable talking about yourself, others tend to enjoy being around you and perceive you as socially competent.
The confidence that helps you feel comfortable talking to people also spills into your own personal beliefs about yourself. Although you have several strengths, it’s likely that you also acknowledge and accept your weaknesses. But unlike some people, you take full responsibility for your actions—you rarely regret things you’ve done in the past and are not embarrassed easily.
Perhaps the defining feature that sets you apart from most people is the exceptionally high standards that you set for yourself. Your competence in social gatherings as well as at work should provide ample evidence for this. With these characteristics, it’s very likely that people come to you for advice and generally think of you as someone with leader-like qualities.

Family Orientation

As someone who is oriented to familial matters, you value the company of family-members and domestic life. If you have children already, you enjoy spending time with them very much and work hard to be a good parent. If you don’t have children, you very much desire having children in the future. And your preference for cooking and entertaining guests at home will likely ease the transition into parenthood.
You take pride in maintaining and cultivating a healthy family and work hard to achieve this. This natural tendency is easily illustrated by your preference for doing things around the house as opposed to going out to clubs and restaurants.
What really sets you apart from people that are low in family orientation is that you know how to manage your frustrations and work well on your own. This means that you are well-equipped to manage a family without letting all the work that is involved wear you down. However, as someone with strong family values, all the work that is involved in maintaining a tidy home and well-stocked kitchen might occasionally make it difficult for you to finish everything that you need to do.

Self-Control

The self-control personality dimension captures the way in which a person regulates and directs him or herself. Being low in self-control can be both good and bad. Occasionally people may be compelled to follow their intuitions and give in to their temptations, and your degree of self-control makes this likely to happen more often than not. This can be good in circumstances where being relaxed and open are important. However, in situations where it is necessary to be focused and careful, you might find that you do or say things that may be inappropriate.
As someone who exerts little control over your actions, you may find that you commit social blunders that might offend other people and get yourself in trouble. For example, if you’re given responsibility to work on a project that requires close attention to detail, you may be likely to overlook important details because you have difficulty staying focused. Consequently, you might feel more comfortable delegating such tasks to other people who are more detail oriented. Being able to recognize such characteristics in yourself and having more detail-oriented people do such tasks could be an effective way to manage your own stress level.
Low self-control may diminish your effectiveness at work. Acting too relaxed can make it difficult for you to focus on projects that require organized sequences of steps or stages. Thus, your ability to accomplish may be inconsistent. Indeed, it’s possible that you might be criticized periodically for being unreliable or unable to “stay within the lines.” Nonetheless, you may still experience many short-lived pleasures and never be thought of as boring.

Openness

As someone high in openness, you have a strong appreciation for beauty, both in art and nature. Indeed, it’s likely that you are easily absorbed in music and art, as well as natural phenomena. Another aspect of your openness is your emotional insight; that is, you probably have good access to and awareness of your own emotions.
Another aspect of the openness dimension is the tendency to think about abstract concepts and ideas. This thinking style may take the form of artistic and metaphorical use of language, and/or music composition or performance. Thus, it is likely that, either in your work or spare time, you enjoy activities that get your “creative juices” flowing.
Your tendency to be open-minded can have advantages and disadvantages. For instance, when there are no clear rules about how to approach a particular problem, your openness makes it easier for you to identify new ways to solve problems that might not be very obvious to people that are not as open as you are. In contrast, you may be bored easily in situations that lack high amounts of intellectual stimulation. In such cases, you might have difficulty excelling on projects that do not provide much stimulation or require much creative thinking.

Easygoingness

Easygoingness refers to one’s ability to relax. Based on your score, you appear to “take things as they come” and enjoy having a good time. However, being high in easygoingness also has the potential to produce stress in a number of ways. For example, you may find it difficult to complete tasks thoroughly and efficiently. In this way, being high in easygoingness cannot only make your life difficult, but also the lives of the people around you. Another potential problem with being too high in easygoingness is that it can provide you with gratification in the short-term, but in the long-term provide undesirable consequences.
High easygoingness, even when not seriously destructive, may also diminish your effectiveness at work, for example. You may find it aversive and difficult to put in all the effort that may sometimes be needed to effectively accomplish certain tasks. For this reason, your colleagues might view you as forgetful and unfocused.

How does your personality affect your love life?

With the strong degree of self-confidence that you possess, it’s no surprise that you get along well with most people. Indeed, it’s self-confidence that allows people to feel comfortable interacting with others without feeling insecure and vulnerable. For this reason, you shouldn’t have much difficulty in romance, at least not initially. Your social skills will likely help relieve any anxiety your romantic partners might have on those first few dates. However, over time, the high standards that you have for yourself could potentially frustrate your partner.
Given how much you value family life, you probably get along best with people who share your values and beliefs. In fact, it’s likely that you maintain close connections with members of your immediate and distant family. For this reason, you would probably be most satisfied in a romantic relationship with someone who also values domestic life.
Being in a relationship with someone who enjoys going out to parties and staying-up late at night might be fun, at least initially; yet it’s likely that you will find this tiring over time. Thus, it might be easier and more satisfying for you to develop a long-lasting relationship with a person who also enjoys spending time at home and desires starting a family. On first dates, perhaps you might suggest to your partner that the two of you spend a quiet night having dinner at one of your respective homes instead of going out to a restaurant or club.
As someone who is more relaxed than most people, you likely get along with most people quite well. Chances are that your friends and colleagues perceive you as lively, fun to be with, and good-humored. When it comes to romance, you’ll likely be attracted to most people. However, your free-spirited nature might make being in a relationship with a person that is more rigid than you difficult because you might perceive the person as being too uptight and controlling.
Your openness probably makes it easy for you to respect and appreciate people that are different from you. However, when it comes to romantic relationships, your openness might make it difficult for you to tolerate people that cannot appreciate diversity as much as you. Therefore, you may be happiest in serious relationships with people that share your open-mindedness. But, your openness might occasionally cause a certain degree of dependency on your end because you may be so open that you easily adopt the preferences and habits of your partners and gradually relinquish things that make you so unique.

Congratulations! You just completed the Plenty of Fish Chemistry Predictor!

The Plenty of Fish Compatibility Predictor (CP) measures five broad relationship variables that are each essential for building romantic relationships. People don’t need to score “high” on each of these characteristics to be in a fulfilling relationship. What’s important is how your profile interacts with the profile of a potential romantic partner — or what is commonly called “chemistry.” Based on decades of empirical research in the social sciences, the CP captures the five key ingredients that can determine whether or not two people have the “right” psychological chemistry. The relationship variables are:

Self-Confidence, or the degree to which a person feels comfortable with him or herself. People that are high in self-confidence tend to be assertive and competent in both their private and public relationships. People that are low in self-confidence tend to be reticent and somewhat anxious.

Family Orientation, or the degree to which a person supports and values the family. People that are family-oriented tend to want or already have children, are very close to their immediate relatives and prefer cooking at home to eating at a restaurant. People that are not family-oriented tend to be individualistic, unconventional and very much enjoy attending parties and social functions.

Self-Control, or the extent to which a person exerts control over various aspects of life. People that are high in self-control tend have strong emotional reactions to things and try to regulate those feelings by micromanaging and attending to specific details. People that are low in self-control are usually relaxed, even-tempered and lenient.

Openness, or the extent to which a person is open to and dependent upon others. People that are high in openness tend to like a wide range of things (e.g., food, music, movies, etc.), in part because they are concerned with pleasing other people. In contrast, people low in openness are very independent and opinionated; they know what they like and aren’t apt to change their opinion.

Easygoingness, or a person’s work ethic and degree of mental flexibility. People that are high in easygoingness are very relaxed, broadminded and unaffected by change. In contrast, people low in easygoingness tend be hardworking, firm, and sometimes inflexible.

IMPORTANT: Before reading your profile, remember that the report is based on generalizations from research on an international validation sample. Some feedback may not apply to your case. For instance, we know that overall those scoring “moderate or high” on Family Orientation tend to either want children soon or are open to the idea in the future. However, this generalization may not be accurate for all moderate and high scorers. Use these results for self-awareness and self-reflection…and hopefully as a conversation piece with other Plenty of Fish members!

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Lots of Questions – Lists of Questions

January 17, 2010 BeWiseMonkey No comments

Here is a list in case you need to think outside the box a little of lots of Questions?

Ideas and questions to ask yourself and other people!!

Are you a night owl or a morning person?
Do you prefer giving or receiving gifts?
In how many languages can you say ‘Hello’?
Have you been told you can sing well more than once by strangers?
What are your 3 physical features you get complimented on often?
What is your most favorite animal to have as a pet, aside from a komodo dragon?
What is your favorite color?
When did you have the time of your life?
Where would you like to go to the most?
What kind of life do you want to live?
Are you superstitious?
Does it matter who earns the most money in a relationship?
What are the most important characteristics in someone you are looking for?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever received?
What does a good relationship look like?
If you had an extra hour in a day, how would you spend it?
What’s the best compliment you’ve ever received?
In an ideal relationship, what would you spend the majority of your time doing?
What’s the biggest personal change you’ve made?
What is your idea of living a good life?
What would your dream house be like? Would it be a contemporary cave, or a Victorian shed?
What is the funniest thing that has ever happened to you?
What is your one achievement that makes you the most proud?
What is the one thing would I ‘not’ know about at the first meeting?
On a scale of 6-to-47 how organized are you (or keep it simple, like 1-to-10)?
If there was one thing you could have done differently, what would it be?
What do you expect from someone you’re dating? or what do you expect from the person in your life?
What is your idea for world peace, global warming, green energy?
What are you absolutely best at?
How accurate is your first impression of others? What is your first impression of me?
What 3 things would you take with you to an island?
If you had so much money that you wouldn’t know what to do with, what would you do with it?
What is your favorite time of the day?
If you could have dinner with anyone, who would you choose?
What is your worst dating experience?

What is your full name including middle name?
Do you have any nick names?
Where were you born?
Do you live with roommates, family, alone?
Are your parents still together?
What did you last read, a milk carton, an encyclopedia or something in between?
Name your 3 closest friends. Which one is your very best friend?
Do any of your close friends have children? Are any of them married?
What were you like when you were a kid?
When did you have your first drink?
What did you laugh at most recently?
Do you have any tattoos or piercings? If yes, how many and where are they? If no, would you consider getting one?
What is (or was) least favorite subject in school?
What was your most embarrassing moment?
Do you have a crazy ex-story?
What’s your definition of cheating?
Do you like kids?
If you could live anywhere other than here, where would it?

Do you go out often? What type of places?

Do you exercise regularly?
Do you currently play any sports?
Do you usually dream?
Do people tell you that you act older, younger, or your age?
Have you ever fallen in love?
Have you ever lost anyone you loved?
Have you ever cheated on a test?
Have you ever cheated in a relationship?
Have you ever been cheated on in a relationship?
Have you ever been skinny dipping?
Have you ever come close to death?
Have you ever had a one night stand?
Have you ever performed on stage?
Have you ever had a stalker?
Ever had an imaginary friend as a child?
What is/was your dream job?
What’s the habit you’re proudest of breaking?
What was your most favorite toy?
What have you learned from your past relationships?
What is your funniest earliest childhood memory?
What is the most dangerous thing you have ever done?
If you could change something about yourself, what would it be & why?
Do you like spontaneity or stability more or a healthy balance in between?
Name 5 of the most important things in your life?

Describe your fighting style: drunken master or angry monkey?
If you wrote a journal entry about our date, what would it say?
Are you better at eating salsa or dancing it?
Do you prefer flowers or candy?
Do you prefer chocolate or Ice cream?

1. What is your first name?

2. Were you named after anyone?

3. Do you wish on stars?

4. When did you have your worst cry?

5. Do you like your handwriting?

6. What is your favorite lunch meat?

7. What is your most embarrassing possession?

8. If you were another person, would you be friends with you?

9. Do you keep a diary?

10. Do you use sarcasm a lot?

11. What are your nicknames?

12. Would you bungee jump?

13. Do you untie your shoes before you take them off?

14. Do you think that you are strong?

15. What is your favorite food? For dinner?

16. Shoes on or shoes off? Am I outside or inside?

17. Red or pink?

18. What is your least favorite thing about yourself?

19. What do you miss most?

20. Do you enjoy talking about yourself?

21. What is your favorite color?

22. What are you listening to right now?

23. Last thing you ate?

24. If you could change your hair color, what would you make it?

25. What is the weather like right now?

26. Last person you spoke with?

27. The first thing you notice about the opposite sex?

28. If you could change one physical aspect about yourself, what would it be?

29. Favorite drink?

30. Favorite sport?

31. Hair color?

32. Eye color?

33. Do you wear contacts?

34. Favorite book?

35. Last book you read?

36. Favorite day of the year?

37. Scary or happy endings?

38. Winter or summer?

39. Hugs or kisses?

40. What is your favorite dessert?

41. Who is most likely to answer so many questions about their life?

42. Who is the least likely to answer questions about themself?

43. What books are you reading?

44. What decorates your front porch?

45. What did you do last night?

46. Favorite smells?

47. Favorite sound?

48. Rolling Stones or Beatles?

49. What’s the furthest you’ve been from your home?

50. Do you have a special talent?

51. How frequently do you bathe?

52. How old do you look?

53. How old do you act?

54. What’s your favorite song?

55. Have you recently become a member of anything?

56. What are your plans for the weekend?

57. Does anything on your body itch right now?

58. Does every family have a crazy uncle?

59. Do you wish you were closer to your family?

60. Is there someone you have a crush on?

61. Is there someone who has a crush on you?

62. What foods do you dislike?

63. What characteristics in others do you despise?

64. Favorite item of clothing?

65. Where would you retire to?

66. Favorite time of the day?

67. What was your most memorable birthday?

68. Where were you born?

69. Do you have any pets?

70. What did you want to be when you were little?

71. Siblings?

72. What was your favorite toy as a child?

73. Living arrangements?

74. How many places have you visited?

75. Mountains of beach?

76. The current friends you have known the longest?

77. Full names of your potential children?

78. Bed time? .

79. Do you like males or females?

80. Are you considered beautiful/handsome?

81. Do you smoke anything?

82. Would you rather swim in the ocean or a lake?

83. Are you religious?

84. Do you like to have fun?

85, Are you afraid to die?

86. Do you eat because you’re depressed?

87. Which parent do you prefer to spend time with?

88. Do you enjoy watching animals?

89. Ever been arrested?

90. Ever commit a crime and get away with it?

91. Where do you wish you were right now?

92. What’s the worst thing you’ve ever done?

93. What’s the best thing you’ve ever done for society?

94. If you could change the past, how would you?

95. what scares you most about the future?

96. Would you risk your life for love?

97. If you were starving to death, would you steal food from a poor person? I

98. Who do you admire?

99. If you could trade lives with someone, who would you choose?

100. Do you have any regrets?

101. If you were to die tomorrow, would you regret it?

100 Questions to Ask your Boyfriend

20 of the 100 questions to ask your boyfriend will be on his family

1. What year were you born?
2. Where were you born? Hospital? Home? Birth center? What city?
3. Do you know your birth story?
4. How did your parents meet?
5. What does your Mom do?
6. What does your Dad do?
7. What is the best part of family life?
8. What is the most challenging part of family life?
9. What is your favorite family memory?
10. What is your funniest family memory?
11. What is your least favorite family memory?
12. How many brothers and sisters do you have?
13. If you have brothers and sisters, what is your relationship with them like?
14. Does your family have any traditions?
15. If your family has traditions, do you have a favorite?
16. Do you have pets? If so, what kind?
17. How would you describe your family culture?
18. What are your Grandparents like?
19. How well do you know your cousins?
20. If you had to describe your family in one word, what would it be?

The next 20 of 100 questions to ask your boyfriend will be on career and education.

21. Have you been to college? If so, where?
22. If you have not been to college, do you plan on going? If so, where?
23. What was (or will be) your major in college?
24. Did you go to graduate school?
25. If you didn’t go to graduate school, do you want to go?
26. What is your dream job or career?
27. What is your current job?
28. Where do you see your career taking you over the next 10 years?
29. If you were to write a book, what would you write it on?
30. Describe your work ethic.
31. What jobs have you held in the past and how did you like them?
32. What is the favorite job you’ve ever had?
33. What was your least favorite job?
34. How do you feel about gender roles in the workplace?
35. Do you think that women and men should receive equal pay for equal work?
36. If you were the manager of a team, how would you manage them?
37. What job do you have the most respect for?
38. What job do you have the least respect for?
39. Is there a job that you know you could never do?
40. What is your motivation for working?

The following 20 of 100 questions to ask your boyfriend will focus on future family building.

41. Do you see yourself married at some point?
42. Do you see yourself with children at some point in the future?
43. If you want children, how many children would you like?
44. Do you think there should be specific gender roles in a marriage? If so, what are they?
45. Do you think that the pregnancy and birth process are important?
46. Do you have strong opinions on natural childbirth verses medicated childbirth?
47. How do you feel about breastfeeding and formula?
48. Do you believe in spanking?
49. What do you think is the best way to discipline a child?
50. Do you believe that everyone in a household should participate in household chores?
51. What role to in-laws play in family life?
52. How would you handle a disagreement between your spouse and your parents? Who would you support?
53. Do you have a preference on the religious rearing of children?
54. Do you believe children should be brought up to favor certain political views?
55. How do you feel about violent television shows or video games?
56. What value do you place on the education of children?
57. What method of education is best? Public school? Private school? Homeschool?
58. Do you believe in vaccinations?
59. What kind of Dad and husband do you see yourself being?
60. What is your role in the life of the family?

The next 20 of 100 questions to ask your boyfriend will focus on finances.

61. What method do you use for money management?
62. In a relationship, who manages the money and how?
63. Roughly how much do you usually keep in your bank accounts?
64. Do you have any debt?
65. If you have debt, how much and what kind?
66. Do you contribute to a retirement fund of some kind?
67. What are your yearly earnings?
68. In a marriage, would your spouse need to work to help make ends meet?
69. Do you have a budget? If so, can I see it?
70. How do you manage your yearly taxes?
71. Have you ever had a spending problem?
72. How do you look at money from an emotional standpoint?
73. Do you make a habit of saving money?
74. Do you routinely spend money you don’t have?
75. What was your economic upbringing like?
76. Would you rather have a full bank account or lots of stuff?
78. Do you value using money for experiences like traveling and the arts?
79. In a marriage, do you see money as going into one pot to share or being split into multiple pots?
80. What would you want to teach children about money management?

The final 20 of 100 questions to ask your boyfriend are on sex.

81. How many sexual partners have you had?
82. Have you ever had a sexually transmitted disease?
83. Have any of your past partners ever had a sexually transmitted disease?
84. Have you been tested for STD’s?
85. How often are you tested for STD’s?
86. Would you be willing to go to the doctor with me so that we could both be tested for STD’s?
87. When do you think the appropriate time to introduce sex into a relationship is? During dating? During cohabitation? After marriage?
88. How far are you comfortable going before marriage?
89. Do you have any religious views on sex?
90. Have you ever participated in any fringe sexual lifestyles?
91. Do you believe in monogamy?
92. Are there any sexual acts that make you uncomfortable?
93. How do you feel about pornography?
94. Do you have anything that you especially like sexually?
95. Have you had any difficult issues in your sexual past?
96. Have you ever cheated on someone sexually?
97. Have you ever been sexually abused?
98. Do you have any fertility issues that you are aware of?
99. How high is your libido?
100. Is there anything you would like to know about my sexual past?

1. Do you feel that you are an honest person?
2. Do you think that you are flawless?
3. Do you make hurtful comments when you are hurt?
4. Do you think that your emotions think better than your brain?
5. Do you think that your spouse is flawless?
6. Do you think that sometimes your emotions are in control of you?
7. Do you believe that you are partly responsible for the issues in your marriage?
8. Do you think that surrounding circumstances and problems affect your marriage?
9. Does money affect how you treat your spouse?
10. Do you feel that you are free from any emotional residue from your past?
11. Are you ever selfish?
12. Do you try to communicate with your spouse in a manner that they will clearly understand?
13. What is love?
14. Do you ever regret the things you say when you are emotional or angry?
15. Do you have any problems with drugs or alcohol?
16. When you are angry, do you stop loving the other person?
17. Did you try to meet your spouses needs the way that they needed them met?
18. Have you read the book The Love Dare or watched the movie FireProof?
19. Do you think that you have any childhood pains that relive themselves in the present in some manner?
20. Do you nitpik?
21. Was there any physical abuse in your relationship?
22. Have you ever lied?
23. Name any addictions, of any kind, that you have.
24. Do you always focus on the things you don’t like about your spouse?
25. Do you know that love is a choice, that you chose to love or not?
26. Do you honestly believe that everything is your spouses fault?
27. When you get angry, does your anger control you?
28. How much capacity do you have for forgiveness?
29. Do you extend grace to others knowing that they have blemishes?
30. Did you pray together with your spouse?
31. When you make a mistake do you admit it and apologize when needed?
32. Do you consider yourself a pessimist?
33. Have either of you seeked out assistance for the issues in your marriage?
34. Do you take ownership of your own shortcomings?
35. Did you really try to get help to resolve the issues within your marriage?
36. Was sex a problem in your marriage?
37. How many sexual partners did you have before you got married?
38. Where you focused on meeting your spouses sexual needs or just yours?
39. What percentage of fault will you take ownership of for the issues in your marriage?
40. Did you both go to church and read the bible?
41. Have either of you been to any counselors or therapists?
42. Do you think that you are perfect and in no need of counseling?
43. Did you extend mercy for your spouses shortcomings?
44. Did you think that you would never have any problems when you got married?
45. Did you have sex with your spouse before you got married?
46. Do you have unreasonable expectations of your spouse?
47. Do you consider yourself to be other focused or self focused?
48. Has money been a contributing factor to the problems in your marriage?
49. Do you have memories from the past that impact your current reactions or decisions?
50. Did you know that before your can be honest with others, that you must first be honest with yourself and with God?
51. Do you really feel that you made many unsuccessful attempts to get resolve for the issues in your marriage?
52. Are there things that you want to avoid talking about, because you do not want to admit them?
53. Do you really think that you are free of all emotional baggage?
54. Did you know that anger is a secondary emotion to the primary emotions of fear, hurt, and frustration, which can include selfishness?
55. Do you stomp your feet when you do not get things your way?
56. Can you think of anyone who has caused you a hurt?
57. Do you now realize that you have some emotional baggage?
58. Did you know that when you admit your weaknesses that you mature?
59. Did you know that in order to love that you must be able to forgive?
60. Do you get upset when others hold you accountable for your actions?
61. Wouldn’t you like to be forgiven for all of your mistakes?
62. Have any of these questions bothered you so far?
63. Has victimhood ever been an issue within your relationship?
64. Do you play the victim to all your friends while you are blaming your spouse?
65. Do you have an accountibility partner who can help you be honest with yourself?
66. Are you harboring any feelings of bitterness within you?
67. Did you ever physically abuse your spouse in any way?
68. Are you attempting to cover up any truths so you do not have to face yourself?
69. Do you want to make the other person pay for what you feel that they did to you?
70. Do you know that forgiveness is a process?
71. Do you gossip to others about your spouse?
72. Do you tell others half truths?
73. Are you overly critical about yourself?
74. Did you know that if you do not respect yourself, that you will have a hard time respecting others?
75. Is it important to you that other people think highly of you?
76. Do you try to please others to a point of sacrificing your own integrity?
77. Did you know that in order to be strong you must first admit your weaknesses?
78. Do you turn love on like a light switch, where you love when you feel like it?
79. Did you know that the pains you have are your pains, that you carry them around?
80. Do you consider yourself to be understanding and compassionate?
81. Do you ever stop and ask yourself why you are angry?
82. Do you believe in love?
83. Do you believe in God?
84. Have you given significant thought to what the root problem is in your marriage?
85. How well do you think you handle stressful situations?
86. Does your stress ever effect your relationship?
87. When you are in an argument, do you stop and ask yourself if you are being selfish?
88. Do you often point the finger at your spouse without pointing it at yourself?
89. Did you know that in order for others to forgive you that you must first admit your fault, (confessing), then repenting, (stop doing the wrongful things), and then provide restitution when appropriate?
90. Are you unwilling to do things for others unless it benefits you?
91. Did you know that the root problems in most marriages stem from selfishness, dishonesty, and pride?
92. Do you know that women and men think completely differently and that you can not meet your spouses needs your way?
93. Ultimately who do you think supplies all your needs?
94. Did you know that people are dishonest because they do not want to admit their imperfections, (due to pride)?
95. Have you felt an uneasy feeling while answering some of these questions?
96. Did you know that God is inviting you to be honest with yourself right now?
97. On a scale of 1 to 10, how much love do you actually show your spouse?
98. Is there any part of you that wants to reconcile your relationship now?
99. Have these questions helped you to better understand yourself and your spouse?
100. Do you think that there is still no hope for your marriage?

1. What was your best job?
2. What were your worst jobs?
3. Tell me all the places you worked
4. Tell me about your best friend
5. Tell me about your family
6. Tell me about your relatives
7. What was your first car?
8. Favorite movie star?
9. Favorite entertainer?
10. Favorite song?
11. What were your life changing moments?
12. First girlfriend/boyfriend?
13. First kiss?
14. What is the dumbest thing you have ever done?
15. Have you ever been arrested?
16. Political affiliation?
17. Have you voted for someone you wished you hadn’t?
18. Have you used drugs?
19. Do you like to shop?
20. Best way to relax?
21. Favorite thing to do alone?
22. Ever had a one night stand?
23. Do you save money?
24. What hobbies to you spend money on?
25. If you found a $100 what would you do?
26. Do you want children/more children?
27. Are you a good parent?
28. What makes a good parent?
29. Are you romantic?
30. Ever loose a pet?
31. Dog or cat?
32. Pets growing up?
33. Sleep in the nude?
34. Favorite midnight snack?
35. Do you exercise?
36. Did you ever see your parents making love?
37. Peanut butter and what?
38. What is one food you will never give up?
39. What is a food you can live without?
40. Favorite drink?
41. Perfect day?
42. How many cds do you own?
43. How many dvds to you own?
44. Favorite thing to spend money on?
45. What is the weirdest thing about you?
46. What is on your bedside table?
47. Are you cheap or thrifty?
48. Ever been in love with 2 people at the same time?
49. Grades in high school?
50. Favorite teacher?
51. Relatives in jail?
52. Toppings on pizza?
53. Black or white?
54. Glass half full or half empty?
55. Ever been to a food shelf?
56. Ever milked a cow?
57. Ever tipped a cow?
58. Bath or shower?
59. Mountains or the beach?
60. Plane, train or automobile?
61. Favorite all time movie?
62. Worse movie you have ever seen?
63. Best concert you have been to?
64. Beer, wine or coffee?
65. Best vacation?
66. If you could retire tomorrow what would you do?
67. Worse vacation?
68. Three places you would love to visit?
69. Worse boss?
70. If you could do anything what would it be?
71. Super powers you wish you had?
72. Ever had a massage?
73. Ideal romantic dinner?
74. Dumbest purchase you ever made?
75. Where did you find money when you were flat broke?
76. Ever sold blood?
77. What sporting event/concert/entertainment would you buy tickets to regardless of price?
78. Ever hit a jackpot on a slot machine?
79. Ever won the lottery?
80. What would you do with your lottery winnings?
81. Are you a neat freak?
82. Can’t stand being around people who_________?
83. Crowds or small groups?
84. How old do you want to live to?
85. Loose your sight or hearing?
86. Ever had a crush on a member of the same sex?
87. Pet peeves?
88. Most annoying habit?
89. Sexiest parts of a member of the opposite sex?
90. Major turn offs?
91. Tattoos?
93. Piercings?
94. Plastic surgery–would you/have you?
95. Computer geek?
96. Trekee?
97. Play an instrument?
98. Been in a band?
99. Most embarrassing moment?
100. Nude beach yes or no

ok enough for now , but more to come , do you think that questions are a good idea?

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When the mood changes

October 1, 2009 BeWiseMonkey No comments

When the mood changes.

People and myself think that they are stuck in a rut. How can this be true when moods change in an instance. Feelings and moods and energys can be changed in a second and stay changed until some new stimulus apears. I was very refreshed and happy after a hour long run, i had seen allot of different things and places. I had the runners high you get when you have pushed yourself for a period of time and feeling happy. Conteneted i walked in to my house and knocked a load of freshly washed sheets all over the floor , in an instance the memory and feeling of the run were taken away. And i felt a bit clumsy and stupid.

After having a nice hour in the pool and swimming and once again feeling the nice tired feeling acosiated with having exerted myself. I was walking home and got in a situation with some rude passers by, heckling and cojoling. I found that in that instance the good vibes had been forced to one side.

The negative feeling and patterns that sometime replay over and over. The guilt and worrie these can all be lost in seconds. It takes some action to just have other experiances, places and people. Some new stimulus to remind you that life moves forward and is contained in the current moment.
Same when i feel any other jelouse feelings or regret, just get away from the current situation. If you are obsessed with a girl and cant get her out your mind , then walk around a town. There will be so many distractions that it will put the whole thing in to perspective.

Going around i love how some situations just fall in to place correctly. People as a whole always have a way to iron out the bumps. Some times just stay with a situation and eventualy the most efficiant and productive pattern will emerge.

With my new job i am still in the stage where i have to think about what i am doing , but soon i will be able to sit back and see the process happening infront of me. This is how i like some processes to be.

working on the touch typing. still doing an hour a day touch typing i think, keep working at it and eventually i will be able to do it this is how you touch type. I still need to get my accuracy up a little.

Went for a swim today, went swimming i found it a little trickey. Just a little not sure why.

Found a cat ball, in the garden. It bounces pretty darn good.

Nice little blonde ahh i do enjoy these. Only downside is she is a smoker. What are people doing smoking, Its really bad for health. Nice little blonde. Nice body. But probably poisoned a little on the inside.

Say my new call center today , it looked good . Very nice. I will have to go down there and check it out some more before. Oh yea tell the guys about it.

Feeling a little envoiuse today, my friend is going to university and it seems like this guy is going to have the experiance i wish i had. I can only congratulate the guy for his achievments and personal mastery. But i cant help to compare myself either. after all if you can see your dream or other wishes being played out in front of you how can you not marvel and wish to learn some of the rules. So yeah very nice to see people doing well. Its nice to have positive role modles, people who you feel proud to talk to and understand. Another nice little moment today was finding out how a college celebrates there birthday. The key fact was well planned suprises by her friends, well planned events can be very profound if done right. It only takes a little bit of effort to enjoy situations that are far from the ordinary. A little planning and events can come together. Those little moments.

Was happy for her also today. Nice little treat. What could i plan, some ideas. Places and treats. All sweet experinaces that just require a little effor and imagination.

So im all swam out , not all typed out. But as tomorow is an early start, i think this day is pretty much all played out.

Some girls profile’s say i need to be screwed. Read these they are really intresting. Facebook is a cool way to keep together.

I am going to be reading a book called Born To Run over the next few days so this is going to be a further update on the whole thing.

Swimming pools are a good place to practice flips. Roles and flexibility.

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I cant look away from her

September 30, 2009 BeWiseMonkey No comments

I find it hard to concentrate when she is around, it makes the most simple task so difficult. she is the finest distraction, as i try to look forward i cant help me see beyond this beuty that is in the corner of my eye , this sweet and sickly distraction. i try to make excuses and pick fault the reasons why i should not look but, these imperfections as subtle as they are only increase the the texture and depth of the image as i look deeper and deeper and get pulled away from everything else, all colors and energys are drawn towards her. i cannot look , a table and a wall seem so ugly they beg me to look away and her beuty shines from all areas. i am stuck i holding my breath, i am sitting in this feeling. i am touching a little , just enough to see that this is a real situation i find myself in. i look down and her feet and mine are almost touching our body language is saying we feel the same. i try to show her but i know that she will see what ever she wants to, i have taken my fair share of hidden glances in her direction which she will never know about. i have wonderd about her and thought about many conversations and poems to sing to her, but when we meet words are usless i am stuck in the silence of the moment just looking her way.

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Taking a leap of faith

June 19, 2009 BeWiseMonkey No comments

Leap of Faith in to the Unkown Web

Changing Servers and domains changes everything. This leap of faith applies to the change of BeWiseMonkey.Com changing its server on the web, the site was getting good quality hits everyday , up to 1000 hits a day and has all the promise of growing to be a nice popular site, for all those people who like watching funny monkeys, checking some nice girl pictures and reading some random articles. Unfortunatly the site was on WordPress.com which has a very little tolerance for advertising.

Affiliate links and adverts are not allowed on WordPress and so i was risking the site by having it on there. Not that i could have just taken ads off the site, but i want to be able to advertise on my site and i dont want all my articles to be deleted. So the choice was to take a leap of faith and move away from WordPress.com and hoste privatly but still using WordPress.org to manage site contents. Having used the wordpress content and system i am happy with it and it provides me with the tools which suit my level of Webmaster intelligence.

Google and other services dont know the site has moved my page rankings on googles searchs still come up the same but the BeWiseMonkey.Com they link too is differnet to the current location the site is in. So back to square one, i dont know how the traffic will grow now i have no associations with the wordpress.com tagging lists as i used to get good traffic from them and im not sure if customers search terms will take a while to hit in to my site again.

Leaving WordPress.com and now out in the big open internet, maybe this happend to soon. I could have removed advertising from my blog and carried on and tryed to build the site visits to 10-20k per day then left anouncements advising people to keep the webname on favorites list and that it will be offline for a few days while it gets rebuilt on the new server. Another thing is the site has had to undergo new design modifications as the old theme didnt transfer over.

Being with WordPress you are not allowed to modify htlm code either so your pages and posts are pretty much fixed with in what the simple scripts will allow, now the site is able to have flash and other forms of Htlm i think it will be a steep learning curve and also a little bit of fun to see what else can be included to the visit. I am a complete coding beginer so its slow steps but overall time will tell whether the leap of faith was worth it.

My current core Routine

June 15, 2009 bewisemonkey 1 comment

Right now im in the middle of trying to get the six pack, i currently got a two pack but i think thats how they apear. If i suck my gut in and tense you can see two long thick bars of muscle, but none of the definition of six blocks of muscle.

So still working on the six pack, i dont follow a strict routine. I try to mix up every day with somthing new for the core area, Below are some examples of what i do for my core.

Exersise During Breaks and TV Adverts

Plank while the adverts are on, When im watching a show during the adverts i will hold myself in the plank position. This is a real test of endurance as it becomes difficult to hold after 1 minute . After a minute the whole core really tightens and begins to clench and qwiver. I think this twitching and qwivering while holding this position is how come this is so effective. The twitiching really works the core deep and does a good job getting all the muscle fibers working. this position soon highlights the weakspots as well, before when i was holding the plank the top of my shoulders would be the first to fail but now it seems its more of a whole core and sides that make me want to give up .

Doing exersise during the adverts is a tool that i always use, i dont exersise during the adverts of every show. But i do this technique daily. Try pushing out as many situps or pushups during the adverts of an hours worth of TV.

It really gets you moving and away from all those pointless adverts, which i hate. Watching TV you are being a couch potato, if you do the adverts of intensive exersise then you are getting up to 4 intervals perhour of high intesity . Or if you dont want to do too much , during the adverts shadow box the charectors on the adverts… lol or do some stretching. Loosen your body up a little and get some flexibility and get your self relaxed and ready for the next part of the show.

With allot of time being spent watching tv you can also spend allot of time doing bodyweight conditioning. Regular testing of your muscles over the day will bring out good results. after just two or three days of doing this its now a fun part of watching tv, and i can almost do 30 pressups during the breaks.

You should really stretch and move around during these breaks too, just sitting is a low energy form of using your body. Your body needs to be activated regular and joints used in their full range of motion.

Abs to music. Core workout movements in time with music

One of my other methods of getting the Six pack and i think this is a killer, is doing ab exersise while listning to music. If you put on some tunes and then lay on your back and then do crunches and situps while dancing (hard to explain but you will feelit if you do it) Dont just do sit ups going up and down up and down. But mix them up allot and throw in some arm movements and a few little dance moves and drop some elbows when you get to the upright position. This way you are having fun its about your body and enjoying the music , but your also giving yourself a few minutes of an awsome core routine.

I cheat a little but having my feet pinned down during my core moves but this just gives me some stability so i can really focus on all the areas of the core. I think that having my feet pinned down and doing allot of different motions has really boosted the results i will post pictures after 30 days to see if there is any difference.

Using a mirror during core exersise.

Another good tip is to check your abs and core in a mirror, or even do some tensing exersises in front of the mirror. using a mirror you can really suckin your abs and tense them and move around and tense your abs while seeing where they are developing.

Try doing the stomach vacume while looking in front of the mirror. The stomach vacume exersise is where you pull in your gut as much as possible. Like at school when you used to show of your ribs! Pull in your stomach and gut as far as you can and hold this. or do lots of reps of pulling it in then relaxing maybe 10-20 reps. This method may make you feel like being sick. Or try and get your stomach muscles to roll in a wave effect . You just want to use the mirror to work your controll of your muscles and learn how to use them and flex them properly.

The Wheel , wheel rollouts and ab wheels

An advanced tool is an ab wheel , this little tool is another body killer. It will test your arms , back, legs, core, your neck! your grip everything. This is another simple tool that costs about $5 that will use your body against its self. There is many ways you can use this little tool , simply rolling forward and back will pull every fiber in your body. Your whole muscle and skellington will be crunching at the same time. Its hard enough to get 20 reps on the knees then you can step it up again by doing it from standing. It will take time to master this but dude, this is a action that only a few can perform and it will really give you some edge over the comptiton when it comes to overall body strenght compisition.

Drink water

Just drink lots of water as well , to get your abs or any exersise done you gotta drink enough water. I will fill up a 2liter bottle first thing and its usally drank by the evening. Ive read allot of articles that promote that drinking water is one of the foundations of health and weight loss. Thirst and hunger give the same body symptoms, if you feel hungry or a bit peckish like you want to grab some food, it is possibly that you are just in need of some water. They got the same symptoms and feelings so drink a glass of water it will usally do the trick and satisfy that need.

Take a multivitimatin

You wanna be taking a multivitamin just as a precaution to make sure your mineral needs are hit. I have a very good diet already but ive really felt a positive difference since ive been taking a quality sports multivitamine. They are tailored to sports as being a man i am a natural athlete, the multivitamines i take have a complex of aminos as well like larginine which really gets a good booste of feeling good and working out hard.

Food

Eat real food, dont eat processed shit, or junk food. If you need to make it with real ingredients then its better for you.

Cold showers

Ive written a few posts on these cold showers and i think they really do help, to tone and condition the body.

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Home , Nature and the planet Full Movie

June 5, 2009 BeWiseMonkey No comments

This video shows some amazing views of our plannet and shows how mankind has used technology to surivve of the land. It also explains some of the problems this has caused. This video shows worrying tales of the future, and asks questions of our style of existance. Shows the developing world and beutiful views of the different countries of the world. Take time to watch this video even if global warming does not intrest you some of the views of the modern world are well shot in this high def film. Click the world above or link below to watch the full movie on youtube.

Youtube link >>>HOME MOVIE<<<<

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Signs nice video love

May 28, 2009 BeWiseMonkey No comments

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